The ‘anatomically correct’ kink everyone needs in bed — not just science nerds

When we think of kinks and fetishes, you might conjure up images of sex dungeons, or whip cream flying around.

But some of our X-rated desires are rather more tame.

There’s a little-known ‘nerdy’ kink that has people wanting less dirty talk, and more geek speak.

‘The kink I have is for the use of verbalisation and especially anatomical terms used in sex or masturbation in a kind of proper, nerdy, embarrassing way,’ one woman wrote on Reddit.

The poster gets turned on by her sexual partner using the correct scientific terms for body parts and sex acts – so saying penis instead of d**k, or vagina instead of p**sy.

It’s a stiff-upper-lip type of sex appeal, which lacks the filthy passion of more typical dirty talk.

Think Bridget Jones’ Daniel Cleaver teasing Mark Darcy in the sequel film when he says: ‘Is it true [Darcy] always says “I’m sorry, I think I’m going to come”?’ Daniel enquires, to which Bridget remarks: ‘Who told you that?’

While it’s said in jest, this Redditor finds that oh-so appealing, explaining she likes phrases like ‘oh god yes, I am approaching orgasm’.

Other prim and proper examples would be ‘I’m so erect’ instead of saying ‘I’m so hard’, or ‘touch my scrotum’ rather than ‘grab my balls’.

What is this ‘nerdy’ kink?

Sex expert and author of Kink Curious, Gigi Engle, tells Metro she’s ‘not surprised’ this kink exists.

Gigi believes this sexual preference is likely rooted in sapiosexuality, which also plays into nerd culture.

Sapiosexuals are people who find intelligence sexually attractive or arousing, and the use of this correct terminology for our body parts can certainly play into this.

If your ultimate crush is Seth Cohen or Louis Theroux, then maybe this kink is for you.

‘Some people are also just icked out by terms like “p**sy” and “c**k”,’ adds Gigi.

‘Mainstream porn probably plays a role in that – there can be shame around that language because we’re taught not to be sexual and not to have sexual feelings.

‘So those non-anatomically correct terms may bring up uncomfortable feelings for people, which could then cause an interest in anatomically correct language.’

Of course, it also falls under the dirty talk umbrella, which is hugely popular in the kink world, but Gigi explains that the type of language you enjoy is all down to personal preference.

‘For instance, one person will love to be called “dirty s***”, while another will absolutely hate that, someone might prefer the term ‘daddy’ while another won’t,’ she says.

For example, one Redditor complained his boyfriend always says ‘I’m going to ejaculate’ rather than ‘I’m going to nut’, when they’re having sex.

One person in the comments also questioned: ‘What is this, science class?’ And, they have a point.

Gigi says this kink can fall into the teacher-student roleplay category. ‘A teacher is going to use the anatomically correct words, so it could work really well for that role play,’ she adds.

Is this the kink us Brits truly need?

While it might not be a turn on for all of us, using anatomically correct language is something us Brits have definitely struggled with.

A telling YouGov poll found nearly half of the UK doesn’t know where the vagina is. Not to mention, only 69% of men and 71% of women could correctly identify the clitoris, and just 57% of women and 48% of men could identify the labia.

A 2024 Superdrug study also revealed 40% of women prefer the phrase ‘down there’ instead of vagina, and 20% prefer ‘vajayjay’, while 10% of men prefer the word ‘schlong’ to penis.

Despite our preferences, 65% of the UK believed the nation’s understanding of sexual health would be better if we all used correct anatomical names.

‘It could benefit people to a degree, some people will really jive with this, and it could teach you a lot about your body and dispel a lot of shame around your body parts,’ Gigi agrees.

So, get your textbook out and start studying – you’ll be arriving promptly at an orgasm in a timely manner.

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